Sleep, Anxiety, and BDSM

With my anxiety disorder, sleep is an important component of my life. I get drained, I need more sleep. But if I am anxious, no matter how much I sleep, I have chronic nightmares all night long. I wake up feeling more stressed and tired than when I wen…

The BDSM Community

One thing I have found about the BDSM community is that it is very, very open minded.  I get the feeling it wasn’t always this way, that a few decades ago if you weren’t into black leather and gay sex (the two most stereotypical facets of BDSM ori…

How Far Would You Go?

How far would you go to make your partner enjoy your sex life? Not just nod and smile through it, but really enjoy it? Would you be mean and dominating, if that’s what it took to turn her on? Would you pin her down, talk dirty to he…

BDSM without the Accoutrements

BDSM without the toys… is it still BDSM? Well, yes, you can make an argument that BDSM is more about the relationship between two people– is one in control? Is the other submissive? You can create the allusion of control without the bangs and whistl…