kink

What is Kink?

Kink? Since the advent of the Internet, we have seen a significant increase in the numbers of individuals and groups who publicly acknowledge practicing lifestyles such as polyamory, swinging, and BDSM (Francoeur, et al., 1999). Millions of adults not only engage in BDSM, swinging, and polyamorous activities, but they have developed a community that shares …

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age play

What is Age Play?

Age Play is Not What You Think “Age Play” is a consensual, fantasy, role-play power exchange relationship where one companion takes on a greater age or mentor role and the other takes on a younger, more childlike role. Oftentimes the dominant, or “D-type” in this relationship is less sadistic, taking on a more nurturing and grooming mentorship role. …

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kink phobia

The Kink Phobia Problem

Sexual Outsiders and Kink Phobia Sexual, genders, and relationship minorities, also known as sexual outsiders, are currently not receiving the proper standard of care by mental health professionals. One of the barriers to the development of more educational programs about this population is the lack of mainstream science acknowledging it as an identifiable subculture. This manual …

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pervertables

Pervertables

So this is one of my favorite topics, prevertables. A prevertable is taking an everyday average object and using it for sex play. I have several videos giving examples at various stores from the Dollar Tree to Rocketfizz (a candy store).  Some simple pervertables are spatulas, neck ties, and wooden spoons.  I love pervertables because …

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puppy play

An Introduction to Puppy Play

Ask a Sexpert What is Puppy Play? Puppy play is a form of pet or animal play in the power exchange community. The way puppy play is done, depends on individual preferences. However, the general premise is that one partner takes on the role of a biological puppy or dog. Think of it as a …

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Primal Scream Therapy … Pseudoscience or Genius?!

Have you ever screamed … out loud?  Not sitting in grid-locked traffic, not at your partner arguing over who locked the keys in the car, but a raw, guttural, agonizing scream that came from somewhere deep inside you, that you have become totally disconnected from?  A scream so jagged and saturated in pain, that the …

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Why Are People Kinky?

Are Kinky People Crazy? NO! Kinky People are not Crazy!!!! Kinky sexual practices go beyond what are considered conventional as a means of heightening the intimacy between sexual partners. Sexuality is not a binary concept of normal vs. kinky. Sexuality, relationships, gender, and eroticism are all on a spectrum and, as many biological concepts do, they fall …

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Paraphilia

What Is A Paraphilia?

Malin and Saleh (2007) report that the debate continues as to whether paraphilias are best conceptualized as sexual disorders unto themselves, or are simply a special kind of obsessive disorder, anxiety disorder, or even addiction disorder. Paraphilia is not a term used in the Kink community; however, as a clinician, you will see that Kink communities will …

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