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Consent and Safety in Kinky Dynamics for Professionals

Safety in Play in the BDSM Community Safety is of great concern in the community and there are three, nearly universal, codes or measures for safety and consent guidelines for which they practice; SSC, RACK, PRICK. “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” (SSC) is the oldest of these codes and is still a common safety tool used …

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Furry Fandom

What is Furry Fandom?

What is a Furry? The word “furry” can refer to an anthropomorphic animal, a zoomorphic human, or an amalgamation of human and animal features. Furries are individuals who identify with an animal or animated character and will take on the identity of such animal or character in a fantasy role-play. In my clinical practice, my …

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Social Nudists

What Are Social Nudists and Naturists?

Social Nudists? “Social nudists” and “naturists” are a group that believes the wearing of the modern “social costume” or clothing is not necessary for functioning. This group is very community based group and will build resorts and homesteads where the “eat, work, play” culture is entirely clothing optional. Naturalists do not associate nudity with sexuality …

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kink

What is Kink?

Kink? Since the advent of the Internet, we have seen a significant increase in the numbers of individuals and groups who publicly acknowledge practicing lifestyles such as polyamory, swinging, and BDSM (Francoeur, et al., 1999). Millions of adults not only engage in BDSM, swinging, and polyamorous activities, but they have developed a community that shares …

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age play

What is Age Play?

Age Play is Not What You Think “Age Play” is a consensual, fantasy, role-play power exchange relationship where one companion takes on a greater age or mentor role and the other takes on a younger, more childlike role. Oftentimes the dominant, or “D-type” in this relationship is less sadistic, taking on a more nurturing and grooming mentorship role. …

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pervertables

Pervertables

So this is one of my favorite topics, prevertables. A prevertable is taking an everyday average object and using it for sex play. I have several videos giving examples at various stores from the Dollar Tree to Rocketfizz (a candy store).  Some simple pervertables are spatulas, neck ties, and wooden spoons.  I love pervertables because …

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puppy play

An Introduction to Puppy Play

Ask a Sexpert What is Puppy Play? Puppy play is a form of pet or animal play in the power exchange community. The way puppy play is done, depends on individual preferences. However, the general premise is that one partner takes on the role of a biological puppy or dog. Think of it as a …

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Parents Found Out I am into BDSM

Ask a A Sexpert Question I am an 18 year old and my parents found out I am into BDSM. They insist BDSM is demented and only “crazy people” engage in it. What do I do? Number one is you are not “crazy” or “demented” for engaging in BDSM and you are a legal consenting …

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Primal Scream Therapy … Pseudoscience or Genius?!

Have you ever screamed … out loud?  Not sitting in grid-locked traffic, not at your partner arguing over who locked the keys in the car, but a raw, guttural, agonizing scream that came from somewhere deep inside you, that you have become totally disconnected from?  A scream so jagged and saturated in pain, that the …

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Zoning for SM Swing Groups

NCSFZoning for SM Swing Groups

This Zoning for SM Swing Groups handout was developed by The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF). Please support out community through supporting them. Donate your time or money and be part of the change! Who is NCSF? NCSF is a coalition of groups, clubs and businesses that serve consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual …

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